這是一個非常重要的故事。上一期小組結束之後,我們群體裡的一位母親,生命有了真實的改變。
This is a very important story. After our last group ended, a mother in our community went through a real change in her life.
這個改變大到她的先生出來鼓勵她繼續參與;變化大到她的孩子也非常好奇,很希望能跟我們一起加入小組。
The change was big enough that her husband stepped forward to encourage her to keep participating. It was big enough that her child became deeply curious, wanting very much to join our small group.
跨進一個新的成熟階段
Crossing Into a New Stage of Maturity
跨越成熟的階段從來不容易——需要你願意改變自己內在的驅動力,是一門不容易的功課,需要自我節制。
Crossing from one stage of maturity to the next is never easy. It asks you to be willing to change your own inner drive — a hard practice that takes self-restraint.
這份力量必須來自你自己。
The drive has to come from within you, yourself.
就像 Grace Ministry 一樣:任何參加輔導的人,費用都必須自己出,不能由別人代付。因為那份破土的力量,必須來自於他自己。
It works the same way at Grace Ministry: anyone who comes for counseling pays their own way — no one else pays it for them. Because the effort of breaking the ground has to come from that person, not from someone standing in for them.
所以當這個孩子不停地向 有機心田表達他想加入小組。他要先自己去找到其他願意加入這個小組的小伙伴。
So when this child kept telling me2us2WE, again and again, how much he wanted to join the group. First, he had to go find other kids, on his own, who were also willing to join.
於是他自己去找,透過已經跟我們同行的家長們,找到了幾個同齡的孩子,也都想加入。
So the boy went and found them himself, through the parents inside me2us2WE who were already walking with us — a few other children his own age, who also wanted in.
這個月故事裡的孩子們 · Some of the children in this month's story
就算到了這一步,他們還是要和其他的小組一樣一起立約,而這件事,就交給他們的父母帶他們完成。這挑戰了他們父母之前學的立約和界限。
Even at this step, they still had to covenant together just like every other small group here — and that task was handed to their own parents, to carry them through. This challenged the covenant-making and boundaries their parents had already learned.
因為成熟是可量化的,是有受益人的。
Because maturity can be measured — and it has a beneficiary.
這裡有兩件事我要說清楚
Two Things I Want to Be Clear About Here
第一,這些孩子的父母,原本就都是我們這個 有機心田 裡的成員。
First — these children's parents were already members of this community.
第二,不管是國中生還是高中生,當一個孩子發現自己比自己的父母更成熟,而父母其實還停留在情緒的嬰兒期,那個孩子常常會覺得自己被困住了——那種被困住的感覺,會帶來極大的痛苦。
Second — whether it's a middle schooler or a high schooler, when a child discovers that they have become more mature than their own parent, and the parent is still, emotionally, stuck in infancy, that child often feels trapped. And that trapped feeling brings real, deep pain.
父母永遠要先參與,在成熟的路上負責,因為父母的情緒成熟常常是孩子最大的天花板(困境)。
Parents must always take part first, and carry the responsibility on their own path of maturity, because a parent's emotional maturity is so often the biggest ceiling — the biggest limitation — a child runs into.
所以這裡有兩個重點
So Here Are the Two Key Points
一,我們是以情緒年齡兒童期為起點,而這個起點的最主要特徵是負責、為自己的需要負責,而且有自我節制的能力。
One — we take the emotional age of the childhood stage as our starting point. The main mark of that starting point is responsibility — taking responsibility for your own needs, and having the capacity for self-restraint.
二,父母必須參加。
Two — the parents must take part.
這件事非常重要。接下來,父母的焦慮浮出來了——故事的後半段,在這裡接著讀:
This matters a great deal. What came next: the parents' anxiety surfaced — you can read the rest of the story here:
透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係,是我們所知所行一切的根基。
This path through Jesus — to rebuild our attachment with the Heavenly Father — is the foundation beneath everything we know and do.
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